10 Ways Marrying A Farmer Will Change Your Life...

  When I fell in love with my husband, I had no idea that his job would go from construction to joining our family farm that I grew up on. Once it changed I had an idea it would be hard, I’d be spending a lot of time alone, and that it was bound to be unpredictable, seeing I grew up being a farmer’s daughter. But I must admit being married is a feat in and of itself, and being married to a farmer adds a whole other layer to it. 

There is no denying the fact that our relationship is an adventure. From being married in 2010, building our house together in 2010-2011, our son Sawyer being born in 2012, and our next son to be born in just 2 short months(December 2013)! Just like farming, no two days are ever the same. It’s constantly changing, I’m constantly learning and adapting. I am finding out things about myself I didn’t know…. Like I can learn to have patience(most of the time) and I had no idea how strong I could be until I needed to be. There is no denying that marrying a farmer changed my life in so many ways… 

Here’s 10 ways marrying a farmer WILL change your life..(credit for these 10 things go to another photographer by the name of Jennifer Rohrich, who is also married to a farmer and who worded these 10 things very well that I couldn’t have re-written them any better so I am crediting her for doing so!) I added a few things that are italicized!


10. You will become very good at directions, landmarks, and where people live… Because when your husband tells you he’s in the southwest corner of the field to the south of the “such and such farm” and needs you to bring him something, you will need to be able to find him. Ladies, ask for a plat book if your county does that kind of thing.. It makes your life MUCH more simple.


9. A majority of the conversations during your meal time will be about farming. Farm talk will become table talk during supper. You will get to hear all about crops, equipment, weather, prices… No farm topic is off limits.


8. Date nights during planting and harvest = time in the tractor or combine with your husband. Dates during any other time of the year besides winter = checking crops. If you want to see them or spend time with him, this is where you will be.


7. You WILL find random things in your laundry. I am sure people who still raise livestock have this one the worst. It’s a common thing during certain times of the year that I find soybean seeds rolling around in my dryer. (I find corn, bolts, paper towels, just to name a few!)


6. Don’t plan on eating at a certain time every night or day with your husband. Farm life is so unpredictable. You may be eating supper at 7 pm one night and 10 pm the next night. Or you might not even get to eat with your husband. He comes home and raids the fridge at 10pm while you are trying to stay awake just to “see him that day”.


5. You can never RSVP “yes” to events during planting, spraying, or harvest because you never really know IF you will be available. Events like weddings, banquets, dinners, etc. during this time of the year are usually last minute things… You know, like if it’s raining…


4. Your trips out of town usually involve some sort of farm business… Whether you are going by the hardware store or to stop and look at “insert piece of equipment here”, you never just go to town without doing some sort of farm business… Am I right?


3. You become very good at just going with the flow… Like I said earlier, farm life is unpredictable. You never know when your husband will suddenly decide that “insert farm task here” is IMPERATIVE to get done and he’s off in a flash when you had plans to spend the day together… Or go on a date… Or just cooked a fantastic Sunday meal.. Whatever the situation may be, just let it go. Go with the flow. It’s not worth the energy to get your panties in a bunch over trivial things. Still working on this one!


2. You will become a glass half full person in a hurry. It rains when you don’t want it to, crops burn up or get disease…. For those of you with livestock, calves die… Bad things happen. And if you focus on the negative in the situation, well, your life will be pretty miserable. It’s best to find the silver lining in the farm life. Some years are good, some years are bad, you just have to smile and hope next year is better!


1. You appreciate Mother Nature in ways you’d never thought possible. You will get to experience farming on such an intimate level. You will learn so much about how it all works. Every single day, you are bound to learn something new in the farm world. It’s amazing. You find yourself talking to mother nature hoping for rain when the ground needs it and hoping it will stop raining when it doesn’t!


Yes, my life may have changed the moment my husband decided to be a farmer. And these changes are forever. I am in it for the long haul with him and there’s no turning back now… I wouldn’t change it for the world. The good times will be great, the tough times will just make us stronger. We will continue to learn and grow together as a couple and a family.
 
I love my husband. He is always there for me when I need someone to talk to or lean on or just to “steal heat from when it’s cold!” His joking sometimes gets to me, but not very often, as I love his humor in everything. I love the man like I have never loved anyone before. I look forward to raising our boys together and growing old with him “on the farm”!